Is This What Men REALLY Want?

Firstly, have a quick read of this blog http://chrisrocknrolla.wordpress.com/2010/01/05/how-do-you-get-your-man/ …it is long, but women i need to you read this especially…And guys, this is all you want right?

And if you can’t be bothered i fully understand cos it is looong but an insight is better than nothing right?…

But a quick summary, my friend Chris here is saying that appearances is the thing that attract men. True. i cannot fault that point. He also says we must “fix that shit”; any problems we do have which is disabling us from attracting men. True to some extent yes. Women have too many “requirements” when it comes to choosing guys. Also correct. He also points out and i quote directly from his blog “A normal average man would rather have a broke but cute, flat stomach, young, cute woman that works in McDonalds or cleaner than a chubby, fat woman who works in a bank or has a lot of money” FALSE!!

For those ladies who read the blog, its ok don’t be angry at him, i know you may feel the need to shout at him so he gains some sense. But honestly, i feel he actually may be speaking the truth. Which is actually the sad point.

Fact. The thing that attracts men to women, women to men, is LOOKS! Is it not true. You see that ugly guy trying to move you, and your polite, but secretly your feeling kind of offended that he had the cheek to approach you in the first place. Am i lying? Lets just be real, we are an incredibly shallow society when it comes to first meeting people. So i agree 100% with Chris that ladies, if you do want to get a man, then yes your appearance does matter. But then again, the same goes to you guys. A lot of you think just because your clothing, accessories etc cost a lot of money that it changes what your FACE looks like. I admit, there are some girls out there who are attracted to the personal possessions and value of what you men own. But like i’ve said in previous post you are attracting GOLDDIGGERS not WOMEN. Know this.

Next point he says that we should fix ourselves to attract that guy. Well yes and no. Ladies you should fix yourself for YOU. yeah, i do sound like some any kind of feminist lol, but its true. I know damn well i do not dress up, or do my hair, or buy this dress cos “men will like it” to be honest i couldn’t care less what you think to be fair. Its just a bonus that you lot are attracted, kill two birds with one stone i guess! He does have a point though when he says women should look after ourselves, there is NO excuse to be obese. I’m sorry if this offends you, but from when your walking down the road and breathing heavily, but still manage to find yourself in McD’s then you definitely need to sort out your priorities. I LOVE food, but if i ever get to stage where i need help getting up, someone tape my mouth shut PLEASE. But this isn’t about diet, ladies you need to be doing these things for YOU. I know big girls who are HAPPY and confident and they have their man! Because i do not agree that if you don’t have a flat stomach, big ass and breast that you will never get a man!

I’m going to skip to his quote i posted earlier that “A normal average man would rather have a broke but cute, flat stomach, young, cute woman that works in McDonalds or cleaner than a chubby, fat woman who works in a bank or has a lot of money” . Now if you men GENUINELY think this, then ladies quit college, uni, go to the gym and salon instead and apply for that job in KFC. Who needs intelligence when you can look pretty?! I don’t even like uni, i might just drop out now and spend the rest of my loan on clothes and getting my hair done!!

Come on guys, you cannot possibly want this kind of woman do you? Them dumb girls who know nothing but can tell you how much every pair of shoes in Topshop cost? Do you not value deep intellectual conversations SOMETIMES? Is the appearance really the ONLY thing that matters? Yes i understand that the blog is titled “how to GET a man”. But how do you keep one? So yes, you have a lovely lil trophy girl on your arm, you’re proud, you can show off, other guys want your girl. But how long can a relationship last on looks and sex? Not long i don’t think. Yes appearance does matter, but i’d rather be smart than pretty. (Ok i lied lol.) Ladies you can be smart, intellectual AND beautiful. Lucky for us women we  know how to multi-task and look good and be geniuses at the same time =] Well some of us anyway. Some of us still need to learn how to balance it out and not focus on only ONE aspect. There is no need for majority of woman to be ugly, yet there is no excuse for your stupidity. So balance it out. So ignore that bull about being prettier than being successful. If your a woman who’s life revolves around getting a man then you need to get off my blog because i cannot help you!

But back to his point about women having to many requirements. quoting directly from his blog he says…

“Believe it or not MEN HAVE STANDARDS especially when it comes to having a wifey, we might not have alot of them but believe ours are much more important and stable! For example a man might say ohh my woman must have a cute face, slim body and natural hair.. Can you see how these standards this have to be met? Of course the standards vary from man to man but I just mentioned those three to give you just a basic understanding of how we think.

When it comes to a woman she might say something like he must be black or light skin, tall, his shoes have to be nike, he must have his own place, must have a job or go uni, he’s clothes must be expensive, he must not have kids, must not hit women, must love his mother, must be religious, he must be toned not fat, must not have longer hair than yours, must be from south, must be African or Jamaican ….”

Firstly, ladies if “having expensive clothes, his shoes being nike, have his own place” is in your list of requirements, then then look up, and either left or right is an X button, click on it and go back on Facebook, because i cannot help you! And you best be Lauren London or Megan Good to be having such requirements!

Anyway…i have to admit, he is 100% correct. Women we have TOO many requirements, standards and things we expect men to have. We search for this perfect guy who does NOT exist. Yes you may be lucky enough to find that guy who fits all your 15 needs, but what makes you think they want YOU? Pick, 5 things that attract you, and if that guy has 3 of those things, then don’t complain! See how it goes. Example my 5 things are ( potentially shallow but who cares what you think lol) 1. Honesty 2. light skin (sssh you dark skin guys who will complain!) 3. gold tooth 4. dimples 5. neck tattoo (tell me they’re not sexy? admit it loool). Ok now your thinking, well most of those are just looks. Yes they are, but i said choose things that ATTRACT you, personality and all them things will come later. If you find a guy who meets the minimum requirement of 3, don’t push him aside because he’s not all 5. You could be letting a good thing go just because your being PICKY.

But i think thats enough for this blog because i have written A LOT!…but i know Chris will have something else to say and i WILL have to comment lol…But let me know what you think. Maybe i’m a woman in my own world?

MissCherry.x

15 Things People Do/ Say That Get On My Nerves

I Feel like having another bitch session lol. I wonder if i get irritated TOO easily lol.

1: I Hate when people ask me “how do you do this?” or “How do you use this”…Well I managed to work out it BY MYSELF so how bout you give that a try kmt. Using me like some instruction booklet.

2: Being late (in particular black people) Why is that an invitation or event says 7pm, which means, arrive at 7pm i assume. Yet, you think its ok to arrive at 9. But why?? That means there was no point in actually having a set time if your gonna come whenever you want kmt. Some people even PLAN on being late! Invite says 8pm they’ll be like ” ok i’ll start getting ready at 7 and get there 9″ Erm… WHY?? you just PLANNED that you weren’t gonna be on time? You have NO intentions on being a good person and being on time? Why do you think you’re ALLOWED to be late? What kind of ridiculousness!!

3: When i’m arranging a party or drink up and some idiot asks “What are we gonna do there?” What do you MEAN what are we gonna do? What do you do at drink ups or parties? Why do you need a list of activities? Just turn up and you’ll see init. kmt.

4 : Also when they ask “Who’s coming?” when they don’t know any of the people who i’ve invited, so me telling you jim, bob and Sandra are coming aint gonna make a damn difference to YOU cos you do not know them!! Irritating behaviour

5: People having stupid middle/ last names on Facebook. E.G Shanice odt Minaj …Erm…your name ISN’T Minaj, you DON’T look or act like her, so why you beggin her name? Explain to me? I bet no one calls you Minaj. FACT. Or just having “Don” or “Swaggalicious” or “Boss” in your name. if you WAS a don or a boss, you wouldn’t need to have that as your name because people would know already. You probably wouldn’t even have Facebook either lol. Silly Humans.

6: Dictionary definition of a “Boss” – ‘An employer or a supervisor. One who makes decisions or exercises authority.’  Rick Ross has gassed up a lot of peoples heads! You are NOT a boss. Do you own a business (legal) ? Do you have employers on pay roll? No? Didn’t think so either. So behave yourself.

7: “No homo” I 100% i hate that phrase.. I saw this tweet recently “Hey txt me…no homo” Erm, why is it GAY to text someone? Now i’m questioning the context of your usual text messages! lol. Guys be like “Oh that guy looked sexy in them jeans. no homo” < because im going to think ‘oh he said no homo, thats ok then’. kmt.

8: ” I’m just doing me” – So who was you copying them previous years before you made that decision?? KMT. Stating the Obvious, you was put on this earth to do YOU, why you making it seem like your doing something brand new?

9: Why is it SOME ( i say some before you males start bitching bout me stereotyping you lol) Boys think its ok to talk to women like crap, treat them like rubbish, cheat and hurt them. Yet have the cheek to be like “No one can treat my sister/ cousin like that”. So Why is it you can treat OTHER females like that?  A friend did make a point however, that if a girl ALLOWS a man to treat her like that, then why not? Fair point; however you should treat ALL women with respect. FACT.

10: A question to all females. WHY do you care if another girl is a slag/ hoe/ slut whatever you call them? What concern is it of YOURS how many guys she sleeps with? FACT : Girls only care that another girl is a hoe because that female either A) stole their man B) Broke up the relationship of someone they know or C) is clearly getting more guys than you! Am i Lying? I think not…

11: Guys. This is a BIG thing that some of you do that REALLY irritates my skin! Why do you feel the need to let the world know that you have swagger by writing it in your Facebook statuses, names, on twitter, anywhere that people can see it?! Why do you need to let people know how much you spent on your shirt? Why do you need to let people know that you “Pop bottles” in raves?  FACT: If you REALLY had swagger, people would be able to SEE it. You shouldn’t have to convince me that you have swagger. Swagger is not just about what you wear. Its about how you wear it, how you present yourself to others. Just cos your hat, shirt and vans are the same colour purple, or your wearing that too small Cavalli Shirt does NOT mean you have swagger. You’re only attracting other MEN and GOLD-DIGGERS. If thats what you want then hey, but REAL women don’t care, and thats who you should be attracting!

12: I Write a status on Facebook, and it says for E.G ” i Like Bubbles” then some idiot will be like “Are you still coming 2moro?” or something IRRELEVANT. I’m sorry. But what does that have to do with my status?? Do i not have a wall, or Inbox or Facebook chat, or a mobile phone or twitter for you to ask me that question? are you just being ridiculous on purpose? Kmt

13:  I hate attention seeking people, or people who imply things so you can ask them about it. E.g  I’m talking to someone about jeans, and they’ll be like “oh yeah i saw some and chris said they would look nice on me” Knowing that i have NO idea who chris is so that i can ask who he is. But I don’t care. Actually. And i wont ask about it. How bout dat? kmt.

14: Don’t you hate it when someone you know has an argument, or you overhear one. And then that person will re-tell the arguement, but will change and add things that was never said to make it seem worse than it actually was? Like, why are you lying? That didn’t happen i was there lol. Silly Humans.

15. Everyone knows the Drake track ” I Just wanna be successful” right? I see it in sooo many statuses, quotes etc. Erm, how comes only when it came out you wanted to be successful? So what was your future really saying before that song came out?? lol. hmm…

Well…Thats enough bitching for now. I’ll save the MAJOR irritating things for another blog. Trust me, i have A LOT to complain about If you think i’m too moany a) you don’t know me and b) don’t read any of my other blogs! lol

But anyways, get at me, what gets on YOUR nerves? It can be absolutely anything. Have a good ol’ rant lol..

MissCherry.x