Is This What Men REALLY Want?

Firstly, have a quick read of this blog http://chrisrocknrolla.wordpress.com/2010/01/05/how-do-you-get-your-man/ …it is long, but women i need to you read this especially…And guys, this is all you want right?

And if you can’t be bothered i fully understand cos it is looong but an insight is better than nothing right?…

But a quick summary, my friend Chris here is saying that appearances is the thing that attract men. True. i cannot fault that point. He also says we must “fix that shit”; any problems we do have which is disabling us from attracting men. True to some extent yes. Women have too many “requirements” when it comes to choosing guys. Also correct. He also points out and i quote directly from his blog “A normal average man would rather have a broke but cute, flat stomach, young, cute woman that works in McDonalds or cleaner than a chubby, fat woman who works in a bank or has a lot of money” FALSE!!

For those ladies who read the blog, its ok don’t be angry at him, i know you may feel the need to shout at him so he gains some sense. But honestly, i feel he actually may be speaking the truth. Which is actually the sad point.

Fact. The thing that attracts men to women, women to men, is LOOKS! Is it not true. You see that ugly guy trying to move you, and your polite, but secretly your feeling kind of offended that he had the cheek to approach you in the first place. Am i lying? Lets just be real, we are an incredibly shallow society when it comes to first meeting people. So i agree 100% with Chris that ladies, if you do want to get a man, then yes your appearance does matter. But then again, the same goes to you guys. A lot of you think just because your clothing, accessories etc cost a lot of money that it changes what your FACE looks like. I admit, there are some girls out there who are attracted to the personal possessions and value of what you men own. But like i’ve said in previous post you are attracting GOLDDIGGERS not WOMEN. Know this.

Next point he says that we should fix ourselves to attract that guy. Well yes and no. Ladies you should fix yourself for YOU. yeah, i do sound like some any kind of feminist lol, but its true. I know damn well i do not dress up, or do my hair, or buy this dress cos “men will like it” to be honest i couldn’t care less what you think to be fair. Its just a bonus that you lot are attracted, kill two birds with one stone i guess! He does have a point though when he says women should look after ourselves, there is NO excuse to be obese. I’m sorry if this offends you, but from when your walking down the road and breathing heavily, but still manage to find yourself in McD’s then you definitely need to sort out your priorities. I LOVE food, but if i ever get to stage where i need help getting up, someone tape my mouth shut PLEASE. But this isn’t about diet, ladies you need to be doing these things for YOU. I know big girls who are HAPPY and confident and they have their man! Because i do not agree that if you don’t have a flat stomach, big ass and breast that you will never get a man!

I’m going to skip to his quote i posted earlier that “A normal average man would rather have a broke but cute, flat stomach, young, cute woman that works in McDonalds or cleaner than a chubby, fat woman who works in a bank or has a lot of money” . Now if you men GENUINELY think this, then ladies quit college, uni, go to the gym and salon instead and apply for that job in KFC. Who needs intelligence when you can look pretty?! I don’t even like uni, i might just drop out now and spend the rest of my loan on clothes and getting my hair done!!

Come on guys, you cannot possibly want this kind of woman do you? Them dumb girls who know nothing but can tell you how much every pair of shoes in Topshop cost? Do you not value deep intellectual conversations SOMETIMES? Is the appearance really the ONLY thing that matters? Yes i understand that the blog is titled “how to GET a man”. But how do you keep one? So yes, you have a lovely lil trophy girl on your arm, you’re proud, you can show off, other guys want your girl. But how long can a relationship last on looks and sex? Not long i don’t think. Yes appearance does matter, but i’d rather be smart than pretty. (Ok i lied lol.) Ladies you can be smart, intellectual AND beautiful. Lucky for us women we  know how to multi-task and look good and be geniuses at the same time =] Well some of us anyway. Some of us still need to learn how to balance it out and not focus on only ONE aspect. There is no need for majority of woman to be ugly, yet there is no excuse for your stupidity. So balance it out. So ignore that bull about being prettier than being successful. If your a woman who’s life revolves around getting a man then you need to get off my blog because i cannot help you!

But back to his point about women having to many requirements. quoting directly from his blog he says…

“Believe it or not MEN HAVE STANDARDS especially when it comes to having a wifey, we might not have alot of them but believe ours are much more important and stable! For example a man might say ohh my woman must have a cute face, slim body and natural hair.. Can you see how these standards this have to be met? Of course the standards vary from man to man but I just mentioned those three to give you just a basic understanding of how we think.

When it comes to a woman she might say something like he must be black or light skin, tall, his shoes have to be nike, he must have his own place, must have a job or go uni, he’s clothes must be expensive, he must not have kids, must not hit women, must love his mother, must be religious, he must be toned not fat, must not have longer hair than yours, must be from south, must be African or Jamaican ….”

Firstly, ladies if “having expensive clothes, his shoes being nike, have his own place” is in your list of requirements, then then look up, and either left or right is an X button, click on it and go back on Facebook, because i cannot help you! And you best be Lauren London or Megan Good to be having such requirements!

Anyway…i have to admit, he is 100% correct. Women we have TOO many requirements, standards and things we expect men to have. We search for this perfect guy who does NOT exist. Yes you may be lucky enough to find that guy who fits all your 15 needs, but what makes you think they want YOU? Pick, 5 things that attract you, and if that guy has 3 of those things, then don’t complain! See how it goes. Example my 5 things are ( potentially shallow but who cares what you think lol) 1. Honesty 2. light skin (sssh you dark skin guys who will complain!) 3. gold tooth 4. dimples 5. neck tattoo (tell me they’re not sexy? admit it loool). Ok now your thinking, well most of those are just looks. Yes they are, but i said choose things that ATTRACT you, personality and all them things will come later. If you find a guy who meets the minimum requirement of 3, don’t push him aside because he’s not all 5. You could be letting a good thing go just because your being PICKY.

But i think thats enough for this blog because i have written A LOT!…but i know Chris will have something else to say and i WILL have to comment lol…But let me know what you think. Maybe i’m a woman in my own world?

MissCherry.x

Bad Boys Or Sweet Boys??

This has been an ongoing debate probably since forever!! Do you like Sweet boys? or a Bad boy?

Well, lets first DEFINE what a sweet boy and a Bad boy is…to me anyway…

Sweet boy: Polite, gives you compliments everyday, opens doors, pulls out the seats, pays for dinners/movies etc, remembers anniversaries and birthdays, dedicates facebook / twitter statuses to you, dedicates love songs to you, loves PDA’s (public displays of affection), calls you everyday, texts you constantly, lets you win every argument, agrees with everything you say, will stop talking to someone if you think they are affecting the relationship, would spend everyday with you instead of going out with his boys, will tell everyone about you and show you off, your mum LOVES him, your friends think he’s good for you, he would do absolutely everything in the world to see you smile.

I think i got everything for them lol…now…

Bad boys: Stubborn, rude, arrogant, Never takes you out, wont text you until you text them, will NEVER call you, will probably be linking other girls while they’re with you, wont even hold your hand in public much less tell anyone that you’re together, you only see him when he has nothing better to do, you have to pay for your half of the meal on those rare occasions when he decides to take you out (and its most likely to be in KFC on the way to his house), he just about remembers how old you are much less when your birthday is, anniversaries don’t exist, he’ll make you cry almost everyday out of frustration, he has no intentions on meeting the family EVER, no one understands why you’re with him including yourself.

This is what us women will do, we will get attracted to the bad boy because we do like the chase. Am i lying? We think hmm, i think i can change this one. So we go to the bad boy, get hurt and say never again, and tarnish all men with the same brush. Fact, a bad boy will always be a bad boy. They have no respect for women, and they probably never will. They are the reason why a lot of women give up on BOYS. After we go through “I Hate Boys” stage. We find someone who is the polar opposite. The Sweet boy. But after a while, the novelty of the romance and sweetness wears off. We start to take advantage of the sweet boy, and will probably end up being a Bad Girl (general rudeness, cheating, use him for everything, not calling, not txting etc).  Am i lying?…

The perfect man is BOTH. and i say man, i don’t say boy. A man, knows how to treat his lady properly, he’s polite, but he’s cheeky. he WILL argue with you, he will disagree, but he will compromise with you. He will take you out, and will pay for you SOMETIMES. No man will want a WOMAN who expects to be treated everyday. Pay for your own damn things!! He might hold your hand, but wont slober your face in public! He will tell people about you, but not show you off to the world. Your relationship will be private, just for you two. He will remember your birthday and important anniversaries; your 3 week anniversary does NOT count lol. He will spend time with you, but he will have time for himself! You both need to lead your own lives, who said that being in a relationship means living ONE life? no stah, u’ll go crazy that way!

Guys, don’t think you have to be a sweet boy. Women love guys with a BACKBONE, we secretly love arguing with you. But don’t think you going to link some next girl will make us jealous and make us want you more, cos we will just leave you! A real man knows how to balance it out, he wont be taken for no mug, but he will not disrespect you in no way.

Ladies, don’t let the Bad Boy ruin your perception of ALL men. They’re NOT all like that. He was just a wasteman, and YOU was too stupid to realise it at the time. And if that sweet boy is a bit too sweet like honey dipped in sugar, then let him he know that its just a bit too much. Too much sweet things will damage your teeth! Don’t hurt him just because you CAN. Its not fair on him.

But thats MY insight, doesn’t mean im 100% correct, more like 95% lol. But what do you think??

MissCherry.x

Re: Winter Wifeys/Hubbys

First Watch this video…

What do you think??

Some guys (& girls maybe) are on a search for a “winter Wifey/hubby”, basically a partner for winter. This is what i think. People are MORE likely, to have a partner in autumn/ winter, because people prefer to be single in the summer. Hear why…

Summer, its hot, us girls are dressed “more revealing” and sexy, guys are looking extra sexy (topless sometimes lol). Summer makes you feel better, summers for having fun, enjoying yourself…alie? If your in a relationship during summer, you have a lot more TEMPTATION than in the winter…Alie? (feel free to disagree)…your eyes wander etc. Also summer holidays, Napa, malia etc sometimes its less “hassle” to be single in the summer (not saying i purposely do this lol), your free to do what you want.

It gets to winter now, your going out less cos its too dyam cold, your spending more time at home. so obviously, you want someone to spend that time with alie? Thats why people are more likely to be in relationships during the winter. But saying that, you can’t have a relationship STRICTLY for winter. Like what was said in the video, come march/ April, you can’t get rid of ur partner just because winters over! what kinna fukrees is that! People who do that need to behave themselves.

I’m going to be SOOO real…i prefer being single in the summer lol, simply because (and lets be honest now) my eyes do wander at times. I’d prefer to be able to look (not touch!) while im SINGLE, than look if i’m with someone and feel guilty for doing so. BUT, obviously, if you find that special person DON’T put the relationship off just because its summer and you want to ramp and you think they’re still gonna be there for Winter. Cos you will be one Cold MF if you do that!

My advice, when your “talking” to that person who you think has the potential to be that wifey/hubby…ask them, when they’re last relationship was? how long did it last? if they say “about 4/5 months” and they happen to have broke up in april and aint been wid no one since (assuming its oct/ nov), then your gonna have to question whether your gonna be a winter ting, or a for life ting lol?

But this is just MY opinion. Obviously you may think i’m wrong, if you do, or you agree, leave a comment, whats your view??

Also check out http://www.youtube.com/user/studentlinkuptv i will be commenting on A LOT of the blogs…

MissCherry.x

Would you end your friendship If your Partner told you to?

I was watching Friends today, and it was the episode where Ross told Rachel he wasn’t allowed to talk to her anymore because his new wife said so. Because she was threatened by her.

Would you have listened to her? or him?

Me personally. No i don’t think i would. MY friends are too important to me, for ANYONE to tell me i’m not allowed to speak to them because THEY are threatened by our closeness. Our relationship should be strong enough for you to not worry about other people. If this is the case, then you obviously do not trust me, and you shoudnt be with me. In most cases, it is the person of the opposite sex who they are cautious of. (E.g a female not liking her boyfriends female friend). Jealously ruins relationships.

On the other hand, if my BF had a friend who i do not like, i have no right to tell him to not talk to them. i cannot control his entire life. Its more than likely that the friend was their FIRST and unless we get married, they will be there after too! Being in a relationship isn’t your ENTIRE life, you should be able to have a spearate life without ur partner being involved. Otherwise you’ll go crazy lol.

However, if you have those friends who are interfering in your relationship, then those people are NOT your friends. And you need to LETGO of those people. Allowe being in a relationship with 5 other people.

But what would YOU do?? Is your relationship worth more than your friendships? Would you throw away years of friendships for ONE person?

Everyone’s different. Leave your opinions here.

MissCherry.x